On 9/11, at the same time as the Twin Towers were crashing to the ground, I suffered a full-on collapse.
It had been weeks since I’d been able to eat much and months since I’d had a full night’s sleep. For years, my perfectionist traits had been wreaking havoc on my body, mind, and spirit.
Until this point, I’d been devoting all my energies to pleasing others and to attaining an impossible standard of perfection. Moreover, I’d been dealing with the ramifications of a chronic heart condition, of debilitating endometriosis, and of severe anxiety. To top things off, throughout this time, I’d been repressing the devastating effects of having been sexually abused in adolescence.
Being brought to my knees on 9/11 forced me to begin to try to find out who I really was and why I felt like I was never enough.
Desperate to feel better, I turned to different healing modalities.
I devoted many years to exploring traditional talk therapy. I practiced stress management and mindfulness. I learned yoga and meditation and I explored breathing and other grounding techniques. In their different ways, these practices were quite helpful.
However, they never managed to rid me of the feeling that at my core I simply wasn’t good enough.
In time, I saw that this feeling of not being good enough was like a virus in a computer’s hard drive. Eventually, I realized that its source was what I came to call my Core Story. Moreover, I began to understand that this story was negatively impacting my whole life.
A Core Story is a false belief about oneself that the subconscious mind forms as a way to cope with painful childhood circumstances.
My early life experiences made me form the Core Story that I wouldn’t be accepted as myself. As a result, I always sought to please others, to give up my own needs, and to repress my own voice.
Ultimately, it was only by identifying my Core Story that I was able to get at the root cause of why I never felt like I was enough. Once I’d identified my story and understood how it was formed, I developed various means to release its grip over me. This is what allowed me to stop abandoning my own needs, to love myself, and to transform my life.
Of course, life never stops presenting us with challenges. Over the past ten years, for instance, I’ve experienced the consequences of a painful divorce and seen both of my parents radically decline due to the ravages of Alzheimers. Yet, ever since releasing my Core Story’s hold over me, I’ve been able to face life’s challenges with a sense of empowerment.
There was yet another positive outcome in my journey to self-healing. Ever since childhood, I’ve possessed a powerful sense of intuition about what makes people tick but always repressed it for fear of incurring the disapproval of others.
However, along the path to healing myself, I began to trust ever more deeply in my gifts. One result of this was that I became increasingly adept at identifying other women’s Core Stories.
This would not have been possible in the years prior to 9/11, before I released the hold that my Core Story had over me.
In addition to learning to trust my intuitive abilities...
I obtained certification as an Integrative Life Coach with the Ford Institute and I earned a graduate certificate in holistic healthcare at Western Michigan University, where I subsequently taught a graduate course on Holistic Stress Management.
Not long after, in 2008, I combined all of my knowledge and training with my own intuitive skills to launch my own professional practice as an Integrative Life Coach and Intuitive Counselor.
Since that time, I’ve enhanced my practice by acquiring certification in various other healing modalities, such as Emotional Freedom Technique, Psych-K, yoga, and Reiki.
With all these techniques and skills at my disposal, I’ve helped numerous women replace their Core Stories with new, life-affirming narratives.
I would be honored to do the same for you.
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